When I was a little boy a teacher once complained to my mother that I was “too nonchalant.” My mother was indifferent about that, but my attitude drove this teacher buggy. This one would try whatever she could to upset me. But no matter how hard she tried, she just could not get under my…

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Back in the ‘80s and ‘90s I was a Wall Street Investment Banker and Stockbroker. I’d often be flabbergasted by the number of individual investors, purported to be sophisticated, who regularly invested in equities of companies, yet couldn’t read or adequately interpret a corporate balance sheet. Never mind making forward financial projections, if I didn’t…

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Dead or alive, lovable or despicable, if a parent can still make you angry, then you have not forgiven them. Until you can look to see how you’ve hated your parents in the past and allow forgiveness to enter, meaning to stop hating your parents in the present, and remain unstirred, then you cannot live long or…

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Face it. Amidst the beauty and wonder of our human existence, the world is often wrong. The stream of life is cluttered with flotsam and jetsam containing dangerous debris. Navigating its currents can at times seem an impossibly titanic voyage. But it isn’t. Once you know the secret of how to meet the pressures of the world…

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We aren’t supposed to live with anger inside us, pushing us to do and say things we don’t want to do or say. We’re supposed to overcome the lash of resentful, negative energy and then never die from it. The problem is we aren’t being shown how. Parents are failing. The religions are failing. Self-reliance seems the…

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If you could handle stress properly life would be very different than it is now. The problem is you think you already handle it well. And it isn’t true. You’ve been fooled by your own suppression. As we suffer the unpleasant effects of secret anger and unrecognized resentments—anxiety, depression, and physical ailments related to the…

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John Lennon once wrote in song that all we need is love and that through love we can learn how to be who we really are and realize where we belong in the universe. He was correct on all three counts. But there’s one essential piece to this perennial rock hymn John left out—there is a…

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The lack of human consciousness is not merely some inconvenient trait of a few indifferent people who harm nobody but themselves. It is a pandemic scourge that can jam traffic in the middle of the day or topple nations. It can spill milk on a just-washed floor or tear apart a family. When people become thought-trapped inside…

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Once you know the secret to handling the annoying people around you, even the irritating personalities in media, politics and industry, you’ll find peace within. You will find the strength to stand up to bullies and tyrants with grace or to properly stand down to those who deserve your respect. You’ll know the difference. Until, then, when…

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King Solomon, the author of Proverbs, wrote that, “Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” In English, countenance used as a verb means to tolerate, as in, “You should not have countenanced his rudeness.” Here, it connotes an endorsement so as to encourage someone to do something. The shortcomings of others will…

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